Chaz bono before and after
Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man by Chaz Bonooh, chaz. oh, there are so many things about this book that irritated me. let me count them!
1. okay, im not one of those people who thinks that one must live a truly extraordinary life to write a good memoir. i think that, if one has an eye for detail, a love for the absurd, and the ability to tell a good story, one can write a brilliant memoir about waiting for the bus or going to the grocery store or whatever. chaz has none of those talents and hes written (i use quotes because he had a ghostwriter help him!) THREE memoirs. he really has not done enough, or had enough interesting thoughts about his limited life experience, to write three memoirs!
2. on that note...he has NO storytelling abilities. more than one story of meeting a girlfriend goes something like, she was beautiful. she was 54 and average build. i was in love with her! its like, really, chaz? you think its so important that your readers know that your girlfriend was an extremely average height, but wont tell us anything actually interesting about her??! like maybe why you loved her? like, can you describe anything you like about her besides she was feminine. she wore makeup and shaved her legs. ooookay.
3. early on in the book, chaz makes a statement how if your gender in your brain doesnt match the gender in your body, the ONLY way you can live a full and happy life is to medically transition. no, its not, chaz! ever hear of genderqueers? ever hear of people who arent the child of millionaires and cant afford to transition and struggle on anyway and manage to live? ever get the concept that gender is a spectrum? UGH. i understand what hes saying, but it seems kinda fucked that hes making statements about the ONLY way to live. life is not black and white!
4. on that note, he has NO consciousness of how unbelievably privileged he is. and how many trans people face really harsh financial barriers to employment, transition, etc. i can understand why hes stressed about the paparazzi hassling him, and he certainly has taken a beating in the tabeloids for being an out transperson. but, geez, i wish he could come to my job at the welfare office and hang out with the transpeeps trying to live on their $674-a-month SSI payments because they are not considered employable (yes, you can get SSI--a federal disability payment--for gender identity disorder, if the government thinks your gender nonconformity makes it not possible to find a job). maybe that would put things in perspective.
5. DONT THROW FAT PEOPLE UNDER THE BUS! not ok for ANYONE. he made some bitchy comment about having a nudist roommate and how unfortunately, her body made her nudity unenjoyable. (not a direct quote, but the gist of it) fuck you!
6. he repeats himself ALLL the time--sometimes twice in one paragraph! yes, chaz, we know that you are the child of celebrities. we know that you used to be a cute little girl. we knew the first time you said it that youve felt like a guy your whole life. you dont have to tell us like 20 times!
7. he blames every single problem in his life on being trans. im not saying that being trans is a walk in the park, or that it doesnt/shouldnt affect many aspects of his life, but when he blamed his severe cramps/endometriosis on being trans, and feeling uncomfortable with his womanly parts, i had to give my eyes a big old roll. lots of women who have no issues with their gender get really bad cramps, too. in fact, most people with uteri can agree that theyre pretty much landmines. unfortunately, to have a uterus often means that one will have some monthly suffering, regardless of your relationship to yr gender. or when he said that he was unable to make small talk at parties because he was gender non-conforming! and now that hes a guy he can make smalltalk! argh, my head exploded.
okay. there are some good things too. good for you, chaz, for sticking yr neck out. for coming out publicly. for making some extremely isolated trans people feel less alone. for writing a book thats accessible to a lot of people. i laughed aloud at one thing that i think was supposed to be funny--i think it was the statement about realizing that the trans community is a community of nerds. good for you for admitting past wrongs. for trying to rectify yr mistakes. for living through bad things. i really wish youd written about your involvement with the most amazing 90s lesbian movie of all time, BAR GIRLS!! why did you tantalize me with that snippet about working at girlbar, the bar where it all started, but not mention that movie?!? oh well.
anyway, the good parts are why i gave it 2 stars. there were more things i had to say, but i forgot.
Chaz Bono on When He Knew He Was Transgender - The Oprah Winfrey Show - Oprah Winfrey Network
Chaz Bono: From Chastity to Chaz Through The Years
His parents are entertainers Sonny Bono and Cher. Bono is a trans man. In , while then identifying as a woman, and several years after being outed as lesbian by the tabloid press, he publicly self-identified as a lesbian in a cover story in a leading American gay monthly magazine, The Advocate , eventually going on to discuss the process of coming out to oneself and to others in two books. The memoir The End of Innocence discusses his outing, music career, and partner Joan's death from non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Between and , Bono underwent female-to-male gender transition. A two-part Entertainment Tonight feature in June explained that his transition had started a year before.
Chaz Salvatore Bono is an American writer, musician and actor. His parents are entertainers Sonny Bono and Cher. Bono is a trans man. In , while then.
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The two also had a daughter together named Chastity. After splitting up with Sonny, Cher married another musician Gregg Allman, with whom she had another child, Elijah Blue. Both Chaz and Elijah had complex relationships with their respective fathers. Besides performing with his rock band Deadsy, he also played guitar for his mother Cher, and worked with bands like Nine Inch Nails and Thirty Seconds to Mars. Just like his parents, Chaz began his career in music, performing in a band called Ceremony back in Following his transformation, he kept growing his career as he was cast in the recurring role of Reverend Rydale in the soap The Bold and the Beautiful. In , he finally landed his breakthrough role in American Horror Story: Cult.