How to stop talking about people
Talking Too Much Quotes (24 quotes)
What Would Happen If You Just Stopped Talking?
10 things to do instead of talking behind someone's back
Is that juicy nugget of information about your buddy nagging at you, begging you to release it to the rest of your friends? Do you feel the urge to gossip about others behind their back in order to make yourself look like the joker in the group or to make yourself a little more interesting? It might seem like a temptingly good idea at the time, to dump your friend right in the middle of a funny tale or an embarrassing moment but your friend won't think so In fact, your friend will be questioning your loyalty along with your lack of tact. If you talk about your pals behind their back, think about how it is likely to make them feel. Before you pass along one more morsel of information, stop and think about what you're doing.
We all do it. We all talk shit about people. I understand that. But why? What do we actually gain from talking shit about other people? My mind had been infiltrated with constant negativity that I could never seem to shake. I found myself judging others and just saying nasty things about people that should never be said out loud.
The shit talk abounds. And what about the gossip along high school hallways, ricocheting from locker to locker? Need I mention magazines? We are literally surrounded by crap. Why have we succumbed to a culture of belittling banter? Why do we choose to spend our precious time, energy and power to bring others down in hushed whispers and superior tones?
Soon, the whole community had heard the rumor. Later, the person who spread the gossip learned that the rumor was untrue. He was very sorry and went to an elder in the community who had a reputation for great wisdom to seek advice. Rip it open and scatter the feathers, then return to me tomorrow. Quickly defined, gossip is talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature. Unfortunately, gossip feels good and the short-term rewards often distract us from the fact that we know better. Even under the best of motives, gossip almost always does damage to the relationship that we can never completely undo.
Mullah Nasruddin, the famous Middle Eastern trickster figure, once—so the story goes—took a pilgrimage with a priest and a yogi. On this spiritual journey, they were inspired to purify themselves through mutual confession. They decided to confess to each other their most embarrassing ethical lapse. Nasruddin was silent. Finally, the others said, "Come on, Mullah, it's your turn! Nasruddin said, "I didn't know how to tell you, holy brothers.
Whether you think of yourself as Chatty Charlie, Reserved Rebecca or someone in between, chances are you have experienced the power of saying more with less. If you've ever worked in an office where someone stage-whispered "layoffs are coming" across the cubicle farm, you've felt the panic that rises from three words. You may have made a thoughtful, impassioned pitch to an investor who responded, "I'll pass," and the impact of those two words still sting today. Or you may still be celebrating a recent "you're hired! If Rudyard Kipling was correct that "Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind," then many of us are addicted. And most of us, regardless of gender, do more telling, advising, convincing, explaining, directing, and divulging than we should.