Things to say to a dying person
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What To Say To Someone Who Is Dying
The irony is that all such conversations ask of us, ultimately, is what people appreciate hearing at any time of life: words of candor, reassurance, and love. Below is a guide on what to say to someone who is dying because sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we may not know what to do or say that will be of the greatest comfort to the person who is dying. We may not even know how to mentally prepare for conversations with a dying family member. First, the person who is dying usually knows that he or she is dying, and the secret is not to be afraid of that or to run away from it. If the person talks about impending death either directly or indirectly through metaphor, go along. How are you feeling?
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Many people have difficulty knowing what to say to a dying person. They aren't sure if they should avoid the subject of death or encourage the person to talk about it. They feel it would be rude to ask questions, and so they don't know what to talk about. They may leave the dying person feeling ignored by engaging in meaningless small talk or make the person feel uncomfortable by persistently dwelling on death. It isn't always easy to know what to say to someone who is dying soon, but there are some principles that are helpful to remember.
When talking with a friend or family member with a terminal illness, certain words or cliches can come across in a negative way. And I don't want to hear about your mother or close friend with stage one breast cancer who is now fine. That's not what I'm dealing with right now. This must be hard news for you to share. Her advice for helping someone in her position? Chances are we won't ask, not wanting to be a burden.